February 10, 2006
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Adoption or Blood ?
In the Bible we read in at least Romans, Galations, and Eph. that we as Christians are adopted of God and therefore joint heirs with Christ. Meaning God in his goodness is alowing us to share eternity with Christ.
Maybe you all don't want to get involved and maybe this is a question Mrs. Darling should ask on her site.
Out of 50 grandchildren there is no blood grandson to carry on the family name. (poor Pop)
We have one adopted grandson who we love. and treat him like the rest, we are just as concerned for him and pray for him like all the rest of our grandchildren.. The problem...Pop of course wants a blood grandson. and it looks like poor Stumpy is his only hope (I sure the responsibility rest heavy on her sholders)
Who knows as of now she might have a beautiful baby girl, although we have not yet been summuned to Oregon.Is it being fair to wish for a blood grandson when we have an adopted one? In reading stories about childless women who have adopted children, some of them say that even though they love the adopted ones, it does not completely take away the longing to give birth to their own child.
Do you know of any childless couple who says that adopted children take away the desire to have one of their own?
Who knows Ben might have 12 girls.
I would say, I will keep your comments confidential. But I can't speak for all who read this site.
Comments (13)
Stumpy babe is not Pops only hope. Ben is. You see you have forgotten that Ben must be the one to furnish the Y chromosone needed for the baby boy. Ruth is made up of two X's and therefore has no Y to give. A boy is made up of X and Y and therefore very much in need of Bens Y.
So Go Ben! Here's to the Y's! Y, Y, Y, Go Go Go!
And mother I could never ask the adoption question on my blog. I would be eaten alive, aye, even my very life could be at risk! Selah!
I think I've answered my own question, Of course this is how I personally feel, and I will not judge anyone else if they feel differently. After I wrote this post I got to thinking about it real hard. All of a sudden I thought, oh no, this person is adopted, oh no, that person has siblings or friends or parents that are adopted, I realized that it made no difference about my love and acceptance of other people whether or not they were adopted. Why would it make a difference about the children in my family. Therefore I can only speak for myself. Afterall I'm not a man, I'm not a childless women, instead I know how to cry when you go to the Dr. on your 19th birthday and find out you are pregnant with your 3rd child. ( my third child knows I cried and she said she didn't blame me)
I think it depends on how you view yourself also. Does a woman want to be pregnant to prove she is a woman or does a woman want a child to hug, to love and nurture and fill their home with laughter and tears, and many other blessings.
I am reminded of an operation I had 15 years ago, The Dr. asked me if I wanted councelling or if I was depressed or if I felt like less of a woman because of the operation. My answer to him was "I've had nine children, if that don't make me a woman, then I guess I don't need to be one"
The most important is What makes a mother? being pregnant or a babe in your arms that is all yours regardless of wheather by birth or adoption.
Sooo, in conclusion, we have 50 grandchildren, and only one so far to carry on the family name. Out of 51 don't you at least think we deserve two.
I will be content with whaterver God gives us.
While I think that adoption makes a child you're own when you're talking about carrying on the family name it'a different story. How much you love that child and all isnt even a factor. When people say "the family name" they dont mean carrying the last name. There are hundreds of boy babies out there with our last name. Teds adopted son has Pops last name. But it's not about that. It's about carrying on the bloodline and for some reason God even looks at the blood line as coming through the sons, so much so that when a husband died in the OT his brother had to lie down and give sons to the widow. In that light there is no Swartzendruber boy yet. No matter how one looks at it when Jeremy marries he carries on the blood line of his biological father, not Pops. Writing his name on a peice of paper and changing it to swartzendruber does not change the bloodline; the DNA, and the gene pool from which he was born.
In the same way when we are adopted into Gods family we as Gentiles can come to Him but the promises that God promised to His people, the Jews (about the nation being restored and the enemys falling that try to fight them,) all the promises are for the unadopted people....his bloodline...the Jews. Thats just the way it works whether the adopted ones want to believe it or not.
You see, mom, it's not about LOVE. It's about bloodline and heritage, and ancestors and DNA. That stuff cant be changes. So yes, you can love an adopted child as your own but by no stretch of the imagination can you make that child have your DNA.
Therefore though we love Jeremy as our own he will not be the one to carry on the family name anymore than Lee Swartzendruber will carry on Pops name. Pops bloodline must come from the son of his loins. Jeremy doesnt. Though he is loved to death, he doesn't qualify.
Just to clarify;
It's not about how one feels about themselves or about an adopted sibling. It's not about feeling, it's about fact.
The illustration of your hysterectomy is not a good illustration. It doesnt matter how many organs you have. You are made up of two X chromosones therfore you are women. Fact cannot get mixed up with feeling. It's really pretty straightforward and simple.
It is interesting to read up on your site...And definetly keep up the site I love to keep up on peoples lives it makes life more interesting!
Oh my--do I even dare to comment on this one!!!!Tam will chew me up and spit me out!!! I think just a little differently--I of course just met my birthmother and even though by DNA I am a Kenyon/Stewart/Wells--I am 100% a Phernetton/Schwietzer--nothing will ever change that--when my children and grandchildren look up their family tree it will be Phernetton/Schwietzer/Coblentz/Byler--not any of the trees w/our DNA--I think that to much stock is put in blood!!!There thats my take--I don't have a problem wishing for another grandson-but what if Jeremy is the only Swartzendruber to carry on the family name?
If Jaremy is the only one, I will be content. Thanks for commenting, I was wondering how the adopted ones feel about this. I know I never think of you, other than Gene and Barbara's little girl (Well and mine, too
FYI for those of you that know how to spell JEREMY they spell their little boy"s name JAREMY. Don't ask me why.
Yes I seem to belong to more than one family tree!!I knew Teds spelled it different just couldn't remeber how!!
The only reason they spell it different is becaue they didnt know how to spell it right.
I think I was a tad too hard on you guys. I instantly saw "red" because I happen to be adopted and some people that I love dearly are too. I feel like sometimes people discriminate against adopted kids, and for a minute I thought that is what was going on here, but when I read closer, I see that you do in fact love Jaremy very much. I love Mrs. Darlings blog alot and I can see where she gets her writing talents from...Anyways, you will be able to tell from my previous post, that adoption is a subject very close to my heart. So Peace!!!
Santa112, I do hope you come again, I can't seem to find you and would love to know more about you.
Oh gramma s, you are a sweet lady. I am sure I will be back to visit again.
For those of you who have read this post and comments before today. I have deleted some of Santa112's comments at their request. But I want anyone to feel free to diagree on any of my posts, as it helps to keep me balanced.
I do believe I'll keep the one above, I like what it says.
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